Friends

Life is funny at times.  Just not all that long ago I was planning what to do with the rest of my life.  Got as far as the university plan, and then it all just kind of fell into place or at least so I thought.  Now having been underemployed for seven yes, 7 years I am not so sure that the plan did fall into place as it was planned.  I went to university as a mature student and that was an experience I will treasure forever.  I made life long friends one of whom is just like a best friend.  I do not see him often but he is always there.  Others I went to school with are there too, just not with the same closeness.  One I lost track of for awhile has been found and we are in touch again which is nice.  I remember going to see "Circle of Friends" with her when we were both completing our undergrad degrees.  We went to see it with another friend and she left to go see the guy she was dating (who is also a friend of mine and they eventually married and had kids).  That left the two of us and we looked at one another and said 'wanna go see it again?"  and we turned and walked right back into the theatre.  I have never done that before or since that movie.  An experience her and I will always share.  Tis funny how the friends that you think are so much a part of your life just fade out and you do not really notice that they are not there.  But others have an impact on you that you just cannot live without.  I have another friend who stuck by me in some pretty trying times and never judged me.  We lost touch for a bit and we picked up like there had no time pass at all.  Another who lives on the east coast but she is not a tech chick in any way shape or form, so I know she will not see this - I have known her for more than two decades and her and I share experiences from what seems like a lifetime ago - yet we pick up the phone and it is as though we had shaved our legs in her kitchen sink just yesterday. 

This summer I met two such ladies that not having them in my life now would seem terribly empty.  I have not known them for very long, I do not know them well.  But, somewhere inside it is like I have known them both before.  Some where along the way we have known each other before.  They are not my only close confidants or sisters but there is something there that I cannot quite put a finger on.  The only thing that explains it is we have crossed paths somewhere else during another time.  Our friendships have an ease to them, no uncomfortable silences, no pretenses just us as the women that we are comfortable being today, here and now. 

I dedicate this post to those friends -some will read this post as they follow my blog but some do not for whatever reasons. 

Lady of the Oak